Monday, April 2, 2012

Quotation Inspiration - #HAWMC 2

Quotation Inspiration. Find a quote that inspires you (either positively or negatively) and free write about it for 15 minutes.

When I saw the inspiration/prompt for today's challenge there was no doubt in my mind that I knew what quote I wanted to write about. I have one of those big decorative plates with that quote on it. I even went upstairs to take a picture of it. See?!?

I couldn't tell you where I first heard it but I know it has spoken to me from that very first moment. Living with someone who has a mental illness is not easy. There are many times when it is 'raining', at times pouring down so much that it is difficult to see what is in front of you. There are times when it feels as if it will never end. Those are the days that I remind myself of that quote. It is strategically positioned right across from our bed so it is one of the first things I see in the morning and one of the last before I go to bed.

It has helped me through many tough times. No matter how dark things seem, no matter how much 'rain' is falling down on me, all I have to do is to remind myself that even in the rain there are happy moments. If I just take the time to look for them they are much easier to find. All I have to do is take a step back and focus on things other than the rain:

1. Our children
2. Raindrops and roses, whiskers on kittens...
3. The fact that despite our issues we ARE fortunate in so many areas of our lives
4. That we have the ability to work through our problems together as a team once we have calmed down
5. Family and friends that love us
6. ...

Sometimes I just have to hold on to one of those thoughts and the rain at least temporarily disappears. It might come back but for those 5, 10 minutes there is calm and I can tackle things again with somewhat renewed strength.

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain". The storm that is affecting our life is one we will have to deal with for a life time. Our storm most likely will not ever pass completely. We might tame it at times and we will (and do) have moments of calm in between these storms but if we do not learn how to find joy even in our dark times we will much more easily despair. As a family we need to hold on to those happy times and focus on those rather than the storm.

But storms can be destructive and we have seen that in our family as well. And just like storms these might have been predicted by the 'weather forecast' - or in our case mood patterns - but even then the real damage happens without warning and without announcing where and how it will strike. After every storm though there will be rebuilding, renewing and an opportunity for change. What we make of it is up to us.

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