Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Time for another movie date!

One of the local movie theaters offers a free movie summer program. We went on Monday to see 'Alvin and the Chipmunks' and we are going again today. They are showing one of Miss K's favorite movies: 'Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs'. When we first bought the movie on DVD she wanted to watch it at least once a day. I had to hide it from her.

Movie theaters are one of the things L and I had to start avoiding. The closed in space and all those people tend to trigger his anxiety which in return makes him irritable because he starts tearing himself down. There have been many movies that we had to leave early because it was getting to be too much for him.

The nice thing about these free movies is that him feeling as if we have wasted money is taken away from his perceived guilt. It took me a while to not just SAY that I understood but to learn to control any possible disappointment I used to feel. It was a struggle for me. Theoretically understanding WHY we left a movie/party/get together/whatever else and being understanding of it was difficult. Never having felt what he goes through in a situation like that it was a challenge and at times it still is. What I had to realize though was that he himself is feeling bad enough about it as it is. He was and is beating himself up about it more than I ever could.

In times like that he needs me to be at my most understanding and just be there for him. My want is less important than his need at that time. We can watch that movie when it comes out on DVD.

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