That saying was coined by the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche:
Over the past 4 years I have come to the realization that many people would have long given up on either themselves or their marriage if they were in my situation. It is difficult to find fellow spouses of those with severe mental health issues. In my opinion there are a variety of reasons. Among those are the stigma that is still attached to mental illness and that not many stick around when things get difficult.
In my own ways I am trying to show that we are out here and that we, too, need the recognition of being there. We need to find our voices and speak out to help others that are afraid to speak out. We need to band together and support each other because too often we are left in the shadows because our spouse's illness takes up so much of everyone's attention (including our own) that we forget to take care of ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually.
We need to take what we have learned about ourselves, our spouses and our surroundings and apply it to our lives and if we can, to help others who might still be a few steps behind us. So help me, share your story. Just sharing it with one person can make a world of a difference.