One thing that is always heavily on my mind is the question about what effect L's illness will have on our two girls. There is no doubt in my mind that he loves them with all his heart. But there are still times when he gets so irritated that he will yell at them for small things. I am thankful that Miss K was so little when his problems first started getting bad because she will not have any memory of those days.
What is happening now is a different story. I try to explain to her that her daddy is sick but how much of that does a three-year old really understand? On L's bad days I hold her extra tight and just keep telling her that her daddy loves her. He apologizes to her after outbursts but again, what of that will she remember and understand? Now don't get me wrong, these outburst nowadays are few and far between.
Miss K is rather guarded around her daddy and at times will refuse to hug him. I know it hurts L so much and in a way makes him afraid to reach out to her out of fear of being rejected. He missed out on a lot of good socialization opportunities with her. From her actions I really think that she WANTS him to pay more attention to her. They both want it but are afraid the other one will reject them.
Miss K and L have made a lot of headway compared to were they used to be. L has gone 'camping' with her in the backyard and we are finally were he is more comfortable with being left home alone with her (recent crisis excluded lol). So aside from making sure they have opportunities to be just the two of them all I can do is keep trying to explain to the girls what is going on in words that they understand and give them all opportunities to play together and bond.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
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