Friday, March 26, 2010

~Dare 10~ Love is unconditional

Why do you love your partner? His/her good looks? Her love for the things you like? His impeccable manners? There was something that drew you in when you first met. But what if your partner starts changing and suddenly one or more of those things that first attracted you starts disappearing.

Something the pastor at the church I attend actually just brought something along these lines up in the last service. Have you ever thought about the fact that you declare your love for your favorite beverage the same way you express you love for your partner? You love you morning coffee and you love your spouse. Yet are those two loves equal? I would hope not. The Greek language actually has three words for love:

Agape (unconditional Love), phileo (friendship) and eros (sexual)


All three have their place in your relationship with your spouse but if your relationship is based solely on the last two then your relationship is much more likely to be rocky because after all, things change. Your partner might start gaining weight, become ill, have worse manners than he or she did before, do something suddenly that you don't like in other people. If you love is not unconditional all those things and more can lead to the end of your marriage.

The agape love is what your marriage vows most likely talked about 'in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better or for worse'. It is easy to stick around when things are going well but will your love weather the storms that might be in your future?

Luke and I have weathered many a storm because of his diagnosis of multiple mental illnesses and all the issues that come along with that. He HAS changed a lot and is not the same person he was when we met. I know many people have wondered WHY I stick around when it would be so much easier for me if I just left. But despite all these changes I still love him. There are certainly times when I am ready to throw in the towel and just feel as if I cannot go one step further. I just know what I promised him when we got married and because I love him I fully intend to stick to that promise.

So let's move n to today's dare: Find a way to express your love for your partner in a way that shows your true love for them. It doesn't have to be anything big. Express your love for the simple reason of being happy to have them in your life.

1 comment:

McVal said...

Good idea! I love the sermons that talk about marriage. Don't know what I'm going to do yet for the dare, but I'll let you know.
Thanks!
Val

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